Are People That Try Out Dating Online Avoiding Reality?
A couple of years ago I recall the looks my friend Jennifer would get when she mentioned she'd been trying online dating sites. I must admit, at the time, I thought she must be desperate. Couldn't she meet anyone in 'real' life? Didn't she ever talk to people at work or at parties?
I judged her actions and concluded that she must be either a bit weird or socially inept. Of course, you know I wouldn't be writing about this if she had never met anyone! Sure enough, she met someone online and fell in love. He didn't live in Bahrain either, he lived in her town!
Even one experience like this in your own circle of friends can make you question your rushed judgments. So, could online dating really be the answer? Or, is best to just stick with the traditional method of meeting people, even though it hasn't worked out for you yet?
Well, let's say you're busy all day at work , you go out a couple of times a week with your usual group of friends, and the rest of the time you're doing chores and sleeping; realistically, how many new 'dateable' people are you going to come across?
Even if you met one new person a week, how many of them are likely to strike up any kind of connection with? One in a hundred? At that rate, it would take you two years to even meet someone you could fall for. Not bad, but, in the meantime, you've spent two years alone!
So, let's say you look at these statistics and realize you need to up the odds of meeting someone. You do the sensible thing and sign-up to a dating site that has millions of people in its database. You use the Internet to keep in touch with your friends, and for buying things, so why not for dating also?
Is email less 'real' than talking? Be honest, do you message people on Facebook that you haven't seen since your school days? Be even more honest, which mode of communication would you prefer when meeting someone for the first time?
Talking to a stranger that you like the look is far from being easy! opening communication is way easier through online dating sites. No more stuttered introductions or lame chat-up lines. You can think through what you say and ensure that you present yourself in the right way.
In conclusion, not so long ago online dating seemed to me like a last resort for lonely people. Now, I'm convinced that it's unquestionably the best starting place for finding a partner. Let's say you communicate with just 10 new potentials per week through online dating sites - even if only 1 turns out to be eligible, you've increased your chances of meeting someone by over 1000! You can't argue with that!
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